"I have found creating and editing in wetpaint very easy. But, for the life of me, I cannot figure out how to view it as an outsider would see it. Please help."

Wetpaint is a WYSIWYG program. And that holds true in most cases. Two things to consider with your wiki and outside viewers. 1. The outside viewers screen resolution. Read more about it here http://www.wetpaintcentral.com/page/Page+Layout+%26+Design 2. What browser is your outside viewer using. You can obtain screenshots of how one of your wiki pages will look in many browsers at http://browsershots.org/
Hope this will help in you setting up your wiki

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Ohhh now I get what you mean go here
http://www.wetpaintcentral.com/page/Add+Link

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"why did the sitemap get deleted?"

The page was deleted because wetpaint didnt need it or it was irrelevant to WPC.

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Click out of the photo and then click it again. Sometimes that pops up, but when you click the photo, you should get two choices: "Edit Photo" and "Edit Link" click the second one to add a link.
Hope that helps =D

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"http://www.wetpaintcentral.com/page/Add+Page"

Under your site navigation, you should see a link, "Add a Page" simply select that.

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thankyou for your reply..i have met alot of people who jump on the "i want money,over everything",and it always made me wonder if it was what they realy thought..im a believer in wealth and health also,due to my business,but never at the detriment of someone else.i look forward to chatting some more "anonymous"

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